Letting go or surrendering is an underrated skill in life. Often we believe that the way to achieve more in life – is to do more, do different things, do, do do. But in reality, the more you are able to let go, the more you are able to unfold what is really meant for you.
All of us have both masculine and feminine energies in our bodies. Both of these in an ideal state exist in a delicate harmonious balance. Masculine energy often invites us to be structured, to be more action oriented, to pursue our goals, to make plans and so on. Feminine energy, on the other hand, invites us to be more in the flow, to let go, to be more in tune with our bodies and our internal energy systems, to go more inward, to listen more, to be more soft, enjoy the smaller joys of life, to dig deep regarding what truly matters. Both these are very important and have their place in our lives, and sometimes it’s important to know when one overpowers the other and which might be needed more for the season of life you are in.
Mostly, it is the feminine which is hard to cultivate for most of us. The feminine energy invites us to let go, to surrender, to be OK with not having everything figured out, to trust the process, the journey and place our faith in God/Higher Power/Universe/something outside of us. Why is this so hard? I think the main reason behind this is – we have been taught (especially the millennial generation) that the condition of our lives is dependent on how hard we work, how much effort we put into things. Do you believe in this? I don’t believe it’s true (but still struggle to put it in practice), the condition of our lives is partly affected by our efforts, yes! But not 100%. There are forces beyond our understanding that affect our lives and its journey, and that is hard for an analytical, ambitious person to accept.
So, how do you let go or surrender?
- Accept and appreciate what is – You might not be where you want to be in life, but you cannot grow if you do not accept and appreciate what is working right at this moment. Appreciate every little thing that is going well in your life right now.
- Know where you want to go – This comes from quieting the mind, and going away from distractions and really going inward. Know what you want out of life, the more clarity you can get – the better. Obviously, this will look different at different stages of life, and can be hard to identify with so much societal conditioning. We define what we want based on our instagram feeds and the lives of our friends. . The more silence you can cultivate (quieting the outside noises and its effect on you), the more you can find this. Meditation works great for this.
- Let go of the timing – Let go of when you think XYZ needs to happen. We all have a desired trajectory of life, but life always has better plans for us than we do. And timing is seldom when we want it to be. Trust that the thing will come to you at its perfect time or when you are actually ready for it.
- Read the signs (optional) – If you believe in signs, ask the Universe for a sign. Signs can be of different forms, and it takes some time to learn to read those, but they help in understanding communication from the Universe. If you are interested more in this, message me 🙂
- Accept the redirects – A lot of times you will receive redirects – which will mainly look like rejections. Rejection from something that you really want in life. Or, something not really working out the way you want it to – be it a relationship, a job, a venture, etc. Knowing when to step away from something is ONE of the biggest life skills we can cultivate. When you have to try TOO much for something, and it is just not working out, maybe take a step back to see if you are being redirected to something better.
- Have Faith – Above all, the biggest way to surrender or let go is to Have Faith. Have Faith in something other than yourself. Like I said, we believe that each of us have 100% agency and ability to affect our lives, its not really true. Have Faith in something outside of you – that may be God, Universe, Higher Power, Nature, Luck, Destiny – whatever you want to call it.
Have faith that whatever is happening to you is for your own good, and you will be able to connect the dots looking backwards.
Thank you for reading, what do you think? Are you able to let go/surrender? What are some steps you would follow?
Love + light,
Kuki
